YEAH! If I must say, there’s always a fun galore when you move in together to live with your lover. At times when you’re mindlessly bored, you can end up doing the stupidest of things with each other. You could just be sitting down watching a soppy movie on TV when your partner would just pull out a pillow and whack you on the head, until you reciprocate.
At times you would just end up wrestling each other, and laughing so hard until your stitches hurt, and you laugh and roll on the floor until the next bout begins.
Anything and everything you do can always end up with a hilarious encounter when both of you would be alone. At times you find yourself dressing your partner in your clothes, as you try them on yourself. When the two of you clean the house together, it’s funny how a sprinkle of water on the face can leave the floor wet with buckets of water and both of you drenched. Almost any song on the player can have one of you lip-syncing in an exaggerated manner, and flapping the arms wildly.
You serenade your partner with each mushy song you listen to, and you reenact the Romeo and Juliet, and several other characters, like all those we see in Nollywood.
Savouring the thought of it alone would make you wish and tempted to indulge in such a sweet sin. But don’t be quick to forget that it also comes with a hint of complications.
For instance, you might want to clean up the house, but your partner wouldn’t even want to budge from the couch. Or there may be a lot of your partner’s friends who turn up one evening, and finally leave with a trailing mess behind them, which can obviously get you wild with anger. Your partner may also have a few habits that you just can’t stand, like burping out loud, or running the fan way faster than you’re comfortable with. There can be a lot of petty things that can annoy anyone at some point of time.
You might have a wonderful time in between the sheets, and you make love to each other almost every night, but you just might catch your boyfriend in a compromising position with himself! Now why would he want to do that? You ask yourself if you’re not good enough for him. Or you find your girlfriend bleaching her face, or shaving her upper lip, and you wonder why she hid the fact that she has a moustache just like you! You’ve always felt she was totally open and secure with you.
At times, you find your partner laughing out loud late at night, while on a phone call with a friend of the opposite sex. A little green-eyed monster pops out of your head and makes you wonder if the person on the phone makes your partner more happier than you do. You shrug the thought but it lingers for a while. You know you can trust your sweetheart, but a few of these things confuse you and gets you thinking on the negative at times. Nothing much to worry about, it’s just a stupid thought, really.
You are comparing apples to oranges. Just because one tastes good or bad to you doesn’t mean the other will taste the same.
Marriage is a totally different proposition than simply living together. Marriage is built upon a promise before God to remain faithful to one another. Living together involves no such promise. You could fail at living together with someone you may have succeeded with in marriage. It all depends upon how much both people are relying on God for assistance and love. By the way, the divorce rate of couples who live together first is significantly higher than for those who do not.
If your partner will not commit to you for life, don’t deceive yourself into thinking that he or she will be willing to make that commitment at some later point. Marriage is a promise to stay together. Living together for many couples lasts about 18 months, give or take. At the end of that year and a half, you still have no idea how your partner might have done if you both had taken the plunge and made a lifetime commitment to one another. Now you will never know because you settled for the easy way in and the easy way out. Your shot at true love with that person gets blown away with the wind if you decide to shack up first.
Living together prepares people to find reasons not to get married. Marriage, on the other hand, is based on unconditional love and a lifetime commitment. It is not an “audition” for marriage like you have with cohabitation. All of us are imperfect and bound to slip up at various times during the audition. Talk about conditional “love.” It’s “I love you” now….and “I will really love you” once you prove you are worthy. You better walk on eggshells in that situation. It’s pretty dicey and risky too
So my dear sisters, if you really want to hold on to that man and call him your own, lead him to the altar with your love and good features. Marriage is far sweeter and intoxicating than the shame and let down you are prone to get as live-in-lovers.
